How To Get Guys To Notice And Approach You

Are you struggling with men passing you by, but always going to your friend to strike up a conversation? this is a common problem, but I’ve got some answers that can turn this situation around.

There is nothing more frustrating than to be out on the dating scene and watch as all of these attractive men hit it off and seem to “click” with other girls, while you are stuck sipping a drink and batting away the men who have had a little too much and are just too desperate. It makes you want to stop going out to the dating scene altogether!

This may lead you to ask things of yourself like “what’s wrong with me? am I not attractive enough?”. The truth is that you’re fine, but how you present yourself may be hurting your chances of hitting it off with a really great guy.

Body language is said to account for 90% of conversation. That means that what we say verbally is only 10% of the equation. Women tend to have a natural grasp of body language, but that doesn’t mean that they understand how to fully use it. Most people don’t take the time to understand  body language, but I would advise anyone to pick up a book on the matter and  read it, as it will open the world to you.

How To Get Guys To Notice You

This is going to sound silly, but when you’re you, you can’t really see what others see. Studying body language helps with correcting our turn offs and making ourselves radiate so much that people want to come up to us and strike up a conversation. Imagine how useful this could be when going out to a bar, club or party and having guys flocking to you!

First Impressions That Turn Away Men

Men deeply fear a woman that they feel threatened by. This doesn’t mean a woman who is strong, as most guys actually like this. What it does mean is that most guys will avoid women who give them the vibe of being “closed off” which tells them that in a future situation that they will be hard to get along with.

I Once Read

I once read a story about a man who was a real lady killer if you will. His male friends were so jealous, because he could go to any party and take home the choice woman every time.

He wasn’t particularly good looking, but how he carried himself made him attractive. He walked with confidence, slowly into a room. While others were swarming around like mad men, he seemed to be in slow motion when women observed him.

He carried his thumbs in his pockets with his fingers dangling around his groin area. This subconsciously implied confidence in his manhood. He also would lean up against a wall inconspicuously and slightly jut his mid section forward.

Now I know that this might make you want to gag at some point, but if his mission was to take home a woman who wanted to be taken home, this certainly worked. The statement was that “I’m a sexual God” I suppose.

The point is that you as a woman can craft your message through your body language, but make sure it’s the right one.

It should be..

I’m classy
I’m fun
You want to talk to me
I’ll mesmerize you
We’ll have fun together

And it doesn’t have to mean sex, either. So how can you accomplish this?

Shifting Your Body Language To Get Guys To Notice You

Most women are very adept at dressing to appeal to men, so you shouldn’t focus on this as much. Most guys think it’s magic. They don’t understand much about feminine fashion, they just know that women are masters of it.

But, how do you present yourself? What resonates through your face? If you are feeling stressed when you are out about not having a good time, guess what will reflect through your eyes, your mouth and your expressions?

Change your vibe internally. Smile. Smiling changes your internal vibration which can correct how you present yourself.

Open yourself up more. One mistake that women make is to act too guarded. It’s understandable. What goes through a woman’s mind is avoiding being taken advantage of, but this is exactly what turns most guys off. You don’t have to be easy, you know that!

Mistakes

Clasping your arms over your chest (the most confrontational and guarded sign in body language)
Scowling (most people don’t realize they are doing this)
Fidgeting with your hands (promotes insecurity)
Touching your arm with your hand (not as guarded but sends the same message)
Keeping your legs to close together (does not have any sexual appeal, and you do need some of this)
Jerky, quick movements (reflects insecurity)

If you want guys to notice you, this is the same advice that I give to men, so practice this..

Next time you walk into a public place, notice how frantically most people move around you. This frenetic movement stresses each of us out and causes us to look away. Start walking slowly, and let everyone else pass around you. They will seem more insane in comparison.

When you move with confidence and hold your head up high, time seems to slow down around you to the other person observing you. This will get you attention. Learn to carry a coolness about your face. You can do this by observing the
facial expressions of other people. What seems more attractive to you? can you mimic it?

Are You Approachable?

Truth is, most men are a little afraid of approaching women for fear of rejection. You can relate to that, right? who wants to be cast aside and have their egos hurt, and to a man — his ego is very important!

The guys who are so upfront are not always the best for you. They may be just playing games and have only one goal in mind at the end of the night. At the same time, not all confident men are this way, but just imagine that there was a really sweet, attractive guy that caught your eye and he is a little too shy to come up to you.

You can make yourself approachable to the right kind of guy by reflecting sweetness in your face, which is why smiling and having a relaxed expression is important.

Take The Lead

Some guys get stressed out at the idea that they have to approach a woman, strike up a conversation, ask for her number, take her out on a date, set up the date, wonder about the decision to kiss her on the first date, try to get a second date without screwing things up, etc..

This is a lot of work for guys. This alone can make many men just want to stay indoors. So here’s how you can help him out and do yourselves both a favor.

If you see a guy that you think is really something else, make eye contact with him and smile. Many guys who have their
hearts in the right place will second guess their thoughts to approach a woman, so make sure that you make it clear “I want you to come over here and talk to me!”.

Do this by really making it obvious. Smile lots and hold his gaze. Don’t look away. Although women may get creeped out when a guy stares at them too much, when a woman does this it’s very attractive to a man and he’s flattered.

If you do this he will probably feel so good about himself that he will muster up the confidence to approach you.

And even though it seems a little much, I don’t see anything wrong with you even going so far as to motioning for him to
come over and talk. This is not a turn off.